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Winners say: "let's do it." Whiners say: "can't you get somebody else to do it?" Winners are energetic and enthusiastic. Whiners are lethargic and have no zest.

There are winners and there are whiners.

Winners say: "let's do it." Whiners say: "can't you get somebody else to do it?" Winners are energetic and enthusiastic. Whiners are lethargic and have no zest.

Winners attract people to them like bees around honey. They have infectious personalities. They stand out in a crowd. They are people to be reckoned with. They are dreamers, planners and achievers. Winners have conquests in their minds. They talk about opportunities, projects and the future. Winners smile.

Whiners repel people like a bad smell in a confined space. They have poisonous personalities. They too stand out in a crowd but for opposite reasons. They find it difficult to hold conversations because people find them tiresome. Whiners have conflict in their minds. They criticize, deride and ridicule others. Their favorite topics include rumor and innuendo. Whiners scowl.

Check your language. Is it positive or negative? Check your thinking. Is it appreciating or depreciating?

A good way to learn how to become a winner is to wear a small elastic band around your wrist. Whenever you say or think something disingenuous, uncomplimentary, rude, abusive, negative or self deprecating, stretch the elastic band out and let it sting your skin. You will find that after a while you will begin to change your ways.

Being a winner has so many advantages. Being anything else is just not worth wasting time on.

Gary Simpson is a 7th Dan karate master who teaches self defense, motivation, self help and wealth building to students around the world through home study courses. You may reprint this article as you include this author credit and an active link to his web site. Finance - Self Help - Motivation - Self Defense - Personal Growth MotivationSelfEsteem.com