I just thought I would say a couple of things in the hope that what I offer here can be assimilated into your thinking. And if you get my IDEA then I’m hoping that it will free up some of your “mind-space” for creativity rather than blanketing it with a useless negative emotion.

NEGATIVE EMOTIONS:

Negative emotions stifle creativity. When your mind is open or “free to roam” it can create marvelous things. We are ALL capable of this. But… some of us are locking down that creativity. And one of the worst things for that is frustration.

Frustration is your enemy. It will cloud your thinking.

I see a lot of frustration in many people from time to time. It’s very easy to see when people speak about it openly but, if you can “read between the lines,” it’s there in so many comments. It’s in the language. It’s in what is said and even sometimes in what is not said or even counter said or contra said.

Even worse than frustration is the negative emotion we know as anger. Anger will completely destroy your creativity.

WHAT CAUSES THIS?

Frustration occurs mainly because you are comparing YOUR personal “struggle” with the apparent ease that others are having. But what you see is only YOUR struggle. You don’t see and therefore don’t KNOW what goes on behind-the-scenes with other people. Consider this: You may be comparing your greatest weakness with another person’s greatest strength. How silly is that?

Anger occurs when you believe that you are being treated unfairly.

AN EXAMPLE:

For instance, I can’t speak German. To compare myself with ANY German-speaking person will leave me feeling inadequate. But do I want to speak German? No. I am also completely USELESS at golf. If I suddenly developed a burning desire for playing that game (which I won’t – just not interested in it) would it be fair for me to compare myself with Tiger Woods? Uh-uh. And yet, that is what I feel so many people are doing.

We all get frustrated at times. I get frustrated sometimes too. But I slap myself out of it real quick before it gets me down.

AN ANALOGY FOR YOU TO CONSIDER:

Let me share with you this analogy that I have used so many times in my dealings with other people on this matter. In fact, it’s part of my “Journey, Life, Destiny” Personal Development HOME STUDY Course. (See banner below)

Think of YOUR journey (in your chosen venture) as a being given a pack of cards. There are 52 cards (and a couple of jokers) in the deck. You are looking for the Aces. An ace signifies success (in whatever you are trying to achieve).

Every deck is shuffled differently because we are ALL different – different strengths and different weaknesses.

GOING THROUGH YOUR DECK:

So, you start turning over the cards in your deck, one-by-one. Your first five cards are 2, 7, 3, 9 and 4. No aces. Now, at this point, some people will throw up their hands and immediately say “Give me another deck.” These are the impatient ones. (Are you like that?)

Little did you know that the very next card you turned over could have been an ace. The chance of turning up one of those 4 aces is getting better with every card turned. But you became impatient and frustrated. So, you start again. You start turning the cards in a new deck… 5, 5, 6, 10 and 3. Aaagh! Time to tear the hair out! “GIVE ME ANOTHER DECK!”

Then you look across at another player and the very FIRST card that person turns over is… an ACE! Aaaaaaaaagh!

DAMN! What is wrong with YOUR deck?

Well, the answer is nothing. You just haven’t tried long enough or hard enough.

Then somebody else in the same field of activity turns up an ace on their 15th card. DOUBLE DAMN! Frustration and negative emotion sets in and you get down on yourself.

You demand another deck! And your very first card is… a joker. Jokers are those people in life who seem to exist only to upset, rip us off, ridicule and/or annoy us. We all have to deal with them. They are part of life. It’s how you respond to them that determines how badly they will affect you.

You grab the rest of the deck and throw it all over the floor in anger. Then you brood about how UNFAIR everything is…

Have you ever felt that way? I have. But let’s think about it.

WHAT HAPPENED?

What did the other players do that you didn’t? The obvious answer is that they persisted. Have you given yourself long enough to succeed? Are you comparing your strengths and weaknesses unfairly with the strengths and weaknesses of others? In other words, could you be comparing one of your weaknesses with one of the greatest strengths of another person? If you are doing that then you are ALWAYS going to be disappointed.

WHAT ARE YOUR CHOICES?

Basically, you have three choices:

1 – Keep chopping and changing decks before you give your deck a decent opportunity to produce,
2 – Just stop trying and get out of the game completely. Maybe try another game. Or…
3 – Keep turning over the cards thereby improving your chances card-by-card.

So, what are YOU going to do?

Well, if you are persistent enough you will keep turning those cards over. The odds are that you SHOULD turn over an ace in every 13 cards but if you don’t then you should know that the more cards you turn over without finding that elusive ace the better your chances will become.

Be persistent enough to give yourself the opportunity of winning.

HAS THIS HELPED YOU?

I hope this short analogy has helped you. I use it often. It’s an original idea that I had many years ago and I’ve never seen anybody else view things in this manner. Has it helped you? I hope so.

PS: Feel free to make a comment below.

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Only the name has been changed to protect the identity of the person involved.

Let’s call the individual… “Mike.”

I think there is a really important LIFE LESSON here so I am going to reproduce EXACTLY what was said between me and Mike. Here is what happened so you know how this came about…

I sent some information to my list of subscribers and received several pretty nasty unsubscribe email messages. This was one of them…

From Mike:

“You have sent me pure junk since I signed up, I am not stupid and dont wish for you to attempt to make money off of me, greed is a sin.

If you want to help me then mentor me for free and help me earn an income, but I can safely assume that would be too much trouble and not the greatest of investments hey?”

My reply:

Mike,

Your comment would have to be one of the most ill-informed and disingenuous
emails I have received for quite some time.

Let’s take a look at a few things:

1 – You signed up for my Time in Motion ACTION Planner. That was FREE. Have you ever used it? Have you even read it?
2 – I have a MASSIVE amount of information freely available on my blog. It covers so many aspects of Internet Marketing. Have you looked at any of that?
3 – Also available on my blog – completely FREE are:

* The Perfect Storm – a writing manual
* Adswaps manual
* Copywriting manual
* Mindset manual <--- maybe you would benefit from that
* Twitter manual
* Power of Choice

And a bunch of other stuff – ALL FREE!

You say “PURE JUNK” – what, in YOUR opinion is PURE JUNK? Please tell me.

Also, HOW am I attempting to make money off you?

Mentor you for free huh? What ELSE would you require for free? Should I buy you a domain name, a website, build you a blog, buy you an autoresponder? You see Mike this all points to one thing – your rudeness and anger clouds your mindset.

I’m actually glad you have unsubscribed because with an attitude like yours you just don’t have what it takes to be successful right now. Waken up to yourself and stop thinking that everybody owes you something. And get out of your mind that everybody wants to take money off you. The only thing you have in your wallet is moths anyway because it’s VERY obvious that you wouldn’t pay anything to improve or educate yourself.

You cant expect help from people by being rude and abusive.

Have a great Easter and think about why you find yourself in this negative mindset because it is stopping you dead in your tracks. That little piece of advice is FREE too Mike.

Regards

Gary

Mike’s Reply:

Gary,

I have no shame to admit that you did accurately guess a few things right, I am a
man of honesty and can openly admit this.

1. I never actually received this book, but I can assure you that I have read hundreds of others.
2. Information is great. I can find information everywhere I look and even when I try to meditate.
3. Adsense costs money, A domain cost money, Twitter is useless if you dont have a website to promote, Choices can be limited, I dont choose to sit in for 5 days at a time, I have no choice I am too broke to leave.

I am angry, I am angry towards myself and God for putting me in this hell hole. I am angry because I keep loosing my job, I am angry that I cant leave my house, I am angry because I dont have no friends and by the looks of thing no future, I am angry that I have been suffering with migraines for 8 years now and cant find a cure, I am also angry that I am fighting a spiritual battle in mind that is making me feel suicidal, I want to change my life so much, but because of a peice of paper everytime I try to attempt to build something of value I cant do nothing with it.

Some of the most profound self help books I paid nothing for, and actually in all honesty its how I choose what to read. If someone is giving away a free book their intent is clear.

I dont sit around and do nothing, I have wrote 80 pages of a guide to help people also, but what the heck shall I do with it. I have no means of promoting it, forget all these free websites they are useless, the book is not great but when you have a thumping headache/pain in your head from the time you wake up to the time you go bed, then your creativity is kind of drained.

I will move into my positive mind and I hope soon, and when I do my life will change, but right now my negative mind is killing me. I have alot to do on this planet, and will succeed regardless of how weak and desperate I feel.

I am bankrupt at 23 and cant even afford to pay bankruptcy fees, I owe court money and have a distress warrant out for not being able to afford them, you try staying positive!

My reply:

Mike,

To be honest – I didn’t expect a reply from you. So, I give you credit for that.

None of what I said in my reply to you was what you call “an accurate guess” Mike. It sticks out like the proverbial Pit Bull’s OO’s.

Yes, from what you say below, you are going through stress. You are being challenged to see what you are made of. I have been through these times myself.

Lashing out at people is only gonna make things even worse for you.

Not EVERYBODY wants to take your money. But you have to pay your way in this world. Your bankruptcy is a result of poor decisions that you made and maybe some bad luck along the way as well.

Have you been to a doctor for this migraine? Try this: Figure out what side of your head the most pain is on. Left or right. Then take your opposite foot and press around the ball of your big toe until you find a spot that is REALLY painful. Press on that point with the tips of your fingers or thumb at the same rate as your heartbeat. Do that for 3-4 minutes. It’s even better if you can get somebody else to do it for you. It’s called shiatsu and it does work. I have helped dozens of people using this technique over the years but here is what I find – the ones who refuse to believe it cannot be helped. They say it’s all bullshit and they put up with their headache. Those who refuse to endure a couple of minutes of pain also put up with their headache. Their CHOICE!

Those who take the bit between their teeth and work through the TEMPORARY pain are the ones who get rid of their migraines.

You may also be allergic to food substances and additives. Try this: Write down EVERYTHING you eat and drink over the next week and record when you have the headache. Compare your food and drink intake with how you feel. I can tell you from experiences of my own that chocolate, tomatoes and cucumber are migraine foods for many people. It can also be the comination of food.

Mike, I want you to look very carefully at these two sentences you wrote:

“I am angry, I am angry towards myself and God for putting me in this hell hole. I am angry because I keep loosing my job, I am angry that I cant leave my house, I am angry because I dont have no friends and by the looks of thing no future.”

See the KEY word there? “ANGRY.” Yes, you are angry. And that is precisely why you keep losing your job. WHO in their right mind wants a perpetually angry person around them? Tell me that! What friends are you gonna attract when you are always angry? Gang-banger types, that’s who. Other ANGRY losers.

You will attract what you give out. And that is what you are “offering” the world at the moment Mike – anger. And I can tell you this too. All it will do is cause you MORE pain.

Being angry at God is a futile and senseless way to be Mike. He is TESTING you mate and you are proving to Him that you are unworthy of His help.

Learn to be more calm and reasonable.

I can tell you this – when I read your angry email the first time my initial reaction was “what a shithead.” Sorry, but that is what I thought. But I decided to email you to find out why you behave this way.

I believe that you have the capacity inside you to get out of your terrible situation. But… it MUST start INSIDE you. You probably have a hell of a lot more to be thankful for than some poor kid in Iraq, or Afghanistan, or Haiti. Start looking at the positive things in life instead of focussing on all the crap. And stop GIVING crap. Coz when you give it that is all you will attract. More crap, more grief and then more anger. Like a dog chasing its tail.

You ALREADY know that what I say is true because you also said:

“I will move into my positive mind and I hope soon, and when I do my life will change, but right now my negative mind is killing me. I have alot to do on this planet, and will succeed regardless of how weak and desperate I feel.”

But, if you keep lashing out at people in frustration – like you did with me – then all you are doing is suppressing your blossoming into the being you truly want to be. Therefore, your first challenge is to MODERATE your behaviour. Take your aggression out on a punching bag or at the gym – NOT on other people. That is what I do. I train EVERY day to release the crap that people (like you) throw at me for NO good reason. In fact, as soon as I get done finishing this email, that is EXACTLY what I will do. And I will be just a little bit better today than yesterday for doing that.

Finally, Mike, I can tell that you are educated and fairly intelligent simply by the way you write. You have ability over and above the average 23 year old. With a bit of training you could be very good at the written word. That also is quite obvious to me. I’m a very experienced writer and I can spot talent in just a few short sentences and paragraphs. Your sentence construction clearly tells me that you have talent. Use it!

I want you to have this: [POWER OF CHOICE] Please read it. You will see that the person in the story could be YOU! Don’t waste your life Mike. Life is too precious for that. Embrace all the good that you will find WHEN you look for it. It’s there mate. You just have to be LOOKING for it.

I’ve spent over an hour writing this Mike. That is time that I could have been using doing something for myself but I chose to GIVE that time to YOU. I sure hope you appreciate it. In all the thousands of people online that you could have abused, you chose me today. And I have invested time in trying to make you see where you are going wrong. Maybe God, in His mysterious way, made me do it. I don’t know.

Best Wishes

Gary Simpson
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Just in case you are wondering – the original information I sent was a FREE offer from another marketer.

OK. Over to you. Was I too harsh with what I said? Do you think I helped this guy or did I just make things worse? If I get a reply from him I will post it below. Tell me what YOU think.

PS: If you haven’t checked out Alex Jeffreys e-book then take a look. It costs NOTHING to look. The book is free and you can learn a few things from it.

===> ALEX JEFFREYS’ The Guru’s Nightmare – Time to Put the Horse’s head in the Guru’s Bed

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Being “busy” can destroy your ability to get things done. Let me say that again…

Being “busy” can destroy your ability to get things done.

How many people do you know who are so busy being busy that they never seem to get anything worthwhile done? Does that describe you, maybe even just a little bit?

Being busy all the time, through necessity, is a curse. Being busy all the time, for the sake of it, is just sheer madness.

Continual busy-ness eventually leads to stress, particularly if results are minimal. You see, it will get to a point where something has to give way. It’s like filling a balloon with air. Eventually no more air will fit inside the balloon and it will do the only thing it can. It will burst.

It’s OK to have busy periods through each day, each week, each month and each year. However, you also need time to relax. Time to re-charge the batteries.

People who are continuously busy over long periods suffer from two main problems:

1 – they have difficulty saying “no” to anyone
2 – they have difficulty delegating tasks to others

Let’s look at each in turn.

First, those who cannot say “no.” I have a saying: “You can’t save the entire world.” No matter how good your intentions are, you cannot be everything to everyone.

Make a list of those who need and DESERVE your time. They are the ones you should give priority to. Anyone else comes next – if you have the time to spare.

A wise man once said, “work always expands to fit available time.” It’s true. But it is only true if you ALLOW it to happen.

You can always do the odd favor for someone on the odd occasion. Learn to say no in a nice way. Here is one such way: “If I get all my own work done, I will consider your request.” What does that really say? It says your work is important. If you get it done you will help. Naturally, if you cannot get it done you cannot help. It’s a soft way of saying no. Usually the asker will then go and find another person to ask.

By saying no you actually help other people to grow. Imagine if you always said yes to tying up your daughter’s shoe laces. If you never said no she would still be asking you to do it at twenty years of age. By saying no you make her learn to do it for herself. Remember the old saying about giving a hungry person a fish to eat versus teaching the hungry person how to catch their own fish to eat? well…

… there are some people in this world who not only want you to PROVIDE the fish but they want you to scale it, clean it, cook it and serve it up to them for dinner with a side salad. And if they don’t like it they will complain to you. Do you know those type of people? I do. We all do.

By saying no we can free up more time for ourselves and those who need or deserve our time the most. Do not become a slave to the wants and demands of others.

Turning to the second problem, delegation – learn to enlist others to perform tasks that they are better equipped, or have more time, to do.

If you run all over the place attempting to do everything yourself you will never have sufficient time to do anything properly. Delegation is the art of a true leader. The secret to successful delegation is to build the importance of the task into the mind of the person you are delegating it to. Then, when they do it, thank them and praise them sincerely for the things they did well.

Don’t ever think you are irreplaceable, PARTICULARLY at your employment. Somebody gave me a definition once of irreplaceability in the workforce. It went something like this: “Get a bucket of water, roll up your sleeve and thrust your arm into the water. Now pull your arm out. The time it takes for the water to settle back into position will be about the same time it will take to replace you!”

Learning to say no and being able to delegate will allow you to perform the tasks you really want to do and really need to do yourself at a much higher level of proficiency.

AL Williams wrote a book called “All You Can Do is All You Can Do But All You Can Do is Enough!” (ISBN: ). Catchy title, isn’t it?

In his book, Williams says: “Don’t worry about things you can’t change. Focus on making your part of the world better, because when they click your lights out for the last time, you can’t have any regrets.”

Like I said earlier – you can’t save the whole world. Don’t even try.

If you want to be more productive, try to re-organize the way you plan your time. You can do this by:

- making a list of things requiring your attention,
- prioritizing the list,
- doing essential things first, non-essential things last,
- after every third task, rewarding yourself in some small way,
- continuing to work your way through the list in sets of three.

At the end of the day review your list. This is important because it will allow you to see how MUCH you have done and achieved. I do this all the time! Achievement will drive you forward to more achievement.

So, now you don’t have to be busy, busy, busy and get little done. You can just be busy achieving what you want.

Best Wishes to you,

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Stephanie Mulac, in conjunction with Rodger Hyatt and Gary Simpson (a-la-me!), is proud to welcome you to her 4th Self Improvement Giveaway. The giveaway opened for contributors on Friday 11th December 2009 and will stay open right up until the 5th January 2010 when the site officially welcomes members (ie people who will be invited to browse the event looking at all the gifts on offer). In many respects the event is like a giant electronic trade fair where exhibitors (contributors) get to show their wares to the public (invited members from ezines, newsletters and other lists). Thousands of members are expected to flood the site and they will all be eager to see what’s on offer for them.

EARLY INDICATORS:

In just the first 3 days of Self Improvement 4 (SI4) 554 contributors have already signed on to offer their personal development and internet marketing products for others to sample. And this number is rising steadily every hour.

OPEN TO MEMBERS OF THE PUBLIC:

The public side of SI4 (ie when it opens to members of the public) will run from 5th January 2010 until 19th January 2010.

THE BIGGEST SELF IMPROVEMENT GIVEAWAY EVENT EVER:

SI4 is – WITHOUT DOUBT – the biggest self improvement giveaway event that has ever been staged on the internet. It’s also the most highly customized. Already contributors have expressed a lot of compliments over what they are seeing. The most common comments seem to use the word “unique” which is good because that was what was being strived for right from the start.

By combining the worldwide popularity of self improvement with the far reaching power of the internet and combining it all with internet marketing techniques SI4 offers very best of both worlds.

THE INSATIABLE WORLDWIDE APPEAL OF SELF IMPROVEMENT:

One only has to walk into any book store in any country to see how popular the subjects of self improvement, self awareness and personal development are. It’s a multi-billion dollar industry churning out hundreds of new books, audios, CD’s and other paraphernalia every year.

The names of eminent people in the industry such as Bob Proctor, Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill, Rhonda Byrne (of “The Secret” fame), Og Mandino, Dr Norman Vincent Peale and the late, great Jim Rohn (who passed away only last week) and hundreds of other self-help authors and speakers grace the bookshelves of most top business executives. Is it any wonder that the business elite are where they are? They feed their minds while so many non-achievers only feed their stomachs.

WINNERS AND ACHIEVERS:

People from all walks of life who want to succeed are constantly searching for ways to do more, be more and consequently achieve more. And that is the cradle of self improvement.

WORDS FROM THE FOUNDER OF SI4:

Having run this event since its inception in 2006 Stephanie Mulac said,

“Every year my event just grows and grows. I’m not really astounded by its popularity because it really is a winning formula – combining self improvement with internet marketing. It’s become so popular that I can no longer run it all by myself. I simply had to enlist the help of other experienced people this year in Rodger and Gary. Both of them bring their unique talents to the giveaway, Rodger with his superior internet marketing skills and Gary with his copyrighting and self improvement background of some 20 years. So, between the three of us, we are well experienced and have all the bases covered.”

IT’S TIME NOW TO GET ACTIVE (OR JUST GET OUT OF THE WAY):

With 2010 just around the corner, what better time is there than RIGHT NOW to set yourself and your business up for future success? This event is a life-changing experience both for contributors and the public. Come and join Stephanie, Rodger and Gary and see for yourself. If you want to contribute a gift or gifts (there are upgrade options) then go to http://selfimprovementgifts4.com/go/1/jv NOW!

USEFUL SITES:

To visit the sites of your SI4 hosts please see the following:

Stephanie Mulac: http://www.infiniteevolutioncenter.com
Rodger Hyatt: http://im-source.com/rnr
Gary Simpson: www.motivationselfesteem.com/talk

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I’ve been exchanging comments with a guy who I really like trading ideas (and witticisms) with over the last week and something occurred to me during that exchange. And it has to do with that word that I really rather cringe at even saying or typing. But here goes…

… G… G… Gu… Guru.

There, I spat it out. First, let me explain why I really don’t like that word. Well, to be honest, I just find it dopey. So I run to Mr Webster to get the definitive meaning. Here it is (verbatim):

“gu.ru 1: a personal religious teacher and spiritual guide in Hinduism. 2a: teacher and especially intellectual guide in matters of fundamental concern. 2b: one who is an acknowledged leader or chief proponent (as of a cult, movement or idea).”

Now, maybe, just maybe the term Internet Guru falls into category 2b (albeit loosely). In any case, I find it very difficult to refer to anybody as a guru. I suppose this may stem from my 40 or so years as a karate practitioner where specific titles are awarded to people for a combination of knowledge and physical ability. On that score I also have difficulty with the term “Grand Master” which SO MANY false prophets in the martial arts use. Grand Master! Phooey! I think it’s egregious and egomaniacal. I prefer titles that are awarded upon a measured test of knowledge and/or physical capacity.

Then again, we have Grand Masters of Chess, don’t we? Anyway…

The term guru is thrown around on the Internet like a giant open box of confetti in a wind tunnel. Get the picture? Everyone and anyone who has made money is instantly a Guru. It just doesn’t sit well with me. Moving right along…

… in my discusssions with Denis Caron, the friend I referenced above (website: http://www.deniscaronportal.com), I realised something. All of a sudden I realised why people call others gurus and why these so-called gurus take advantage of so many people. And I don’t mean that in a really negative way towards the information providers themselves. OK. I’ll relent for the purpose of this article. I’ll simply refer to these types as gurus from here on in (as much as it rankles me to do so).

You see, there are two main reasons. And pardon me for being blunt but I call a spade a spade not an instrument for excavating soil and yes, fat people are fat and short people are short. I’m not into bull-shitting the truth. Not so surprisingly, only a few minutes ago, a fellow Aussie Joanne Keevers said this about me:

“That’s what I love most about you Gary, tact & diplomacy! ROFL!”

Anyway, I’m sliding off track. The two reasons:

1 – SOME people are just dumb (sorry but they ARE),
2 – MOST people are bone lazy.

So, what a truly delicious combination for a “guru” to come along and clean up financially.

Look, I’m not knocking the MANY fine people out there who make substantial livings by providing quality information to others. We’re in the Information Age, supposedly. Personally, I think we are in the Information Overload Age. There is just far too much information whizzing around. Everyday something new is released – online and offline. You really can become a mental case even trying to follow it all.

However, when ignorance and laziness are in such abundance… “All hail Caesar!”

So many people want the “push-button” solution. That’s why we have instant lotto, instant tea and quick-fix solutions all over the place.

Personally, I write a lot of e-books to help people with various things. I get so many questions on Twitter and via email. Now, here’s the rub…

… when you tell somebody that their question is answered in an e-book and in-depth and not only that… a bunch of other related information too, what do most of them do? Do they get that e-book? Nope. If you even go to the extra effort to send them a pdf, do they thank you? Nope (well, some people do. Most don’t). And if you contact them a week later and ask them if they got their question answered whaddya think the most common reply is? Huh? Wait for it…

… “Oh, I haven’t had the time to read it yet.”

Duh-bloody-duh… Double Duh!

What so many people are REALLY wanting to do is to get others to do EVERYTHING for them. They want money for jam. All the reward for NO effort.

People really are their own worst enemies. This reminds me of when I was in hospital a few years ago. Side-tracking again but I think it conveys a salient point…

I watched in amazement as several people – with obvious lung ailments – stood outside in their pyjamas (right next to the NO SMOKING sign) smoking. And they were coughing their gutses up. How CAN you help people with that mindset? You can’t. Here’s something I said to Denis in a previous comment:

I get so many emails from people saying: “I don’t know how to do this or that or this or that.” I get it on the big T too (er, that would be Twitter). But… gasp… shock… E-GAD!

Now, I know that certain people get a lot of amusement from me quoting me but directly after that I said:

Those very same people are NEVER the ones that wanna read any of my e-books. Oh no! They just want to keep asking me dopey effing questions – one at a time – MOST of which are explained in my e-books.

And, going for the trifecta here (of self-quoting – hello Linda Caroll of http://www.lindacaroll.com – you’ll get a laugh or three out of this, no doubt!):

How do you help people like that when they won’t help themselves? (Note to D-Man: I’m fuelling up here for another mad rant on my blog – might even turn this into a post of its own).

So, if you are ONE of those people (not you D-man. Just talking in general with this bit) – get the FRIKKIN e-book. Then AFTER you’ve studied it – THEN ask me a question if you didn’t understand something. Christ! How much easier can I make this?

Some people make me wonder if mummy and daddy are still wiping their botties and tying up their widdle shoe laces. Sheesh!

So, there you have it. When so many people WON’T help themselves and WON’T take advice, can you blame a guru for taking advantage of them? That is why it’s open season out there. Find a need and fill it. Find a lazy person and take their money. Simple. There you have it. So, in reality, it really is no wonder the gurus are taking advantage of you. If you can’t or WON’T help yourself then what do you expect?

Internet Marketing – love it, hate it. Your choice.

What are your thoughts?

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There are so many things standing in front of the “newbie” marketer –

• education – what do you need to know?
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I must admit, when I heard the news I was shocked and I felt a profound sadness at the passing of yet another icon of the music industry. I felt the same way when I heard the news of Elvis Presley’s untimely passing and the shocking execution murder of John Lennon all those years ago.

Most of us never get to meet these people (though I have worked for one very big name in the entertainment industry) and yet we all “feel” as though we know them through their gifts to the world, in this case, music. We marvel at their drive and passion to succeed in their chosen fields and we all sing along, dance, hum, whistle and tap out a beat in unison with their music. And it isn’t just musician’s who make us feel close to them…

Let’s spare a moment of thought for Farrah Fawcett too. Her death, after an awful period of pain and suffering, was almost put in the shadows by Michael Jackson’s sudden and unexpected death on the same day. Her iconic 1969 pin-up poster sold more than 12 million copies and she was a HUGE televison star (Charlies’ Angels) in the 1970’s!

Unlike Jackson, Farrah Fawcett was expected to pass away. Jackson’s death came out-of-the-blue! And I think that was why Michael Jackson’s passing was so much of a complete shock for everybody.

Before I mention what I believe YOU have in common with Michael Jackson let’s just do a quick run-down of his massive achievements in a life cut far too short and indelibly marked by inner turmoil and anguish.

Five of his solo albums – “HIStory,” “Thriller” (the BIGGEST selling album in music history), “Off the Wall,” “Bad” and “Dangerous” are among the best selling albums of all time. Collectively, they have sold an estimated 750 million units. He was inducted TWICE into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and had no fewer than 13 number ONE singles. He was the winner of 13 Grammy Awards and won the American Music Award’s Artist of the Century Award.

THAT is SERIOUS talent by anyone’s measurement!

But despite all his MASSIVE achievements he was flawed. He had “issues” with his self-esteem. I’ve read with interest in so many publications that he detested his appearance and only felt truly comfortable with himself when he was on-stage performing. And, as a boy, it was alleged by him and others that he was abused. (Sadly, how many times do we hear that these days?)

Most people have self-esteem issues and see themselves as FAR less than what they really are. Most of us believe we are too fat, too skinny, not good-looking enough, not happy enough, not successful enough, not talented enough and a whole range of other “lack” issues.

Sure the Michael Jackson’s of the world come along very seldom. He had precocious talent. But he still had demons that he wrestled with on a daily basis – just like you invariably do!

We can all do more and be more and achieve more. Mostly, it is self-doubt that holds us back.

I’m presently writing an e-book to address this self doubt gremlin that so many people from all over the world and from all walks of life have. But in the meantime, if you would like to learn more about how you can do more and ACHIEVE more then I’d like to direct you to another one of my e-books – “Power of Choice”. I won’t bung on about it here other than to say that it has been downloaded 1000’s of times into over 40 countries of the world. If you want, you can read about it over there on the left of the page (see cover art at top LHS of this page) . And, again if you want, you can get a copy by visiting this link: Get your own FREE life-changing POWER OF CHOICE e-book

We will continue to mourn those who shared their lives and talents with us but the most mournful thing of all will be the fact that they can no longer share their genius with us. Can you imagine the joy that Michael Jackson and John Lennon and Elvis Presley and others could have brought to the world had they lived on?

YOU have greatness locked within you. When are you going to release it and share it with us?

You see, you are going to pass on one day too. We’re all gonna do that. But here is a question I’d like you to ponder…

What legacy will YOU leave behind to show us all that you walked on this earth? When are you going to leave your mark?

RIP Michael Jackson – August 29, 1958 – June 25, 2009
RIP Farrah Fawcett – February 2, 1947 – June 25, 2009

Feel free to make any comments below…

PS: Sorry, but I can’t reveal any details about who the “big star” was in my opening paragraph other than “he was a he” and he knew Michael Jackson well. And yes, this guy had “issues” too.

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So, what EXACTLY is “The Secret” all about?

The “secret” – which is really NO secret at all – is that in order for something to manifest itself in your life you FIRST have to “attract” it by thought.

Henry Ford said:

“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.”

But… is it enough just to THINK positive, empowering thoughts? Will that alone assure your success? I think NOT and here is why…

Here’s just one comment that I have received – Ryan Price said to me on Twitter:

RyanSPrice@TheGazzMan Been using your action planner http://tinyurl.com/d955vj Thanks to you Gary Im on my way to a super productive month!!!
3:40 PM May 15th from TweetDeck in reply to TheGazzMan

Thanks Ryan! Glad to know it is helping you achieve your goals. I love getting feedback like that.

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Now the media is completely obsessed with scaring and frightening and warning us, mostly about things that are NOWHERE near as bad as what it portrays or are NEVER going to happen anyway.

Remember the Y2K bug that was going to spell the end of the use of computers on this planet? What about bird flu? What about this latest FEAR it is spreading on swine flu?

In its absolutely DESPERATE and mad scramble for ratings against all other rivals, almost every media outlet – principally the electronic media of television and radio, but also newspapers – is sensationalising the so-called economic disaster-meltdown-crash-whatever and ramming it right down everybody’s throat at every available opportunity. I swear, if I hear that jingoistic claptrap “these harsh economic times” one more time – which I invariably will some time today, then I will switch off that media outlet for a week!

In my opinion, the media is DRIVING the economic collapse. Now why do I say that? Well, put simply, if you tell enough people often enough that things are REALLY, REALLY bad, then guess what? Things become REALLY, REALLY bad! A perception is created and the prophesy becomes fulfilling.

I have reached the stage now where I watch only the first three items of “news” on TV of an evening. If three out of three are bad news, negative news or endless warnings about bird-flu, terrorism, swine-flu, the MELTING global economy, disasters of flood, famine, drought or the usual raft of plane crashes, train smashes or road crashes, then I just switch off.

Like so many other people I am shunning this sort of news. Who bloody needs it? I certainly DON’T!

If they could only understand it, the idiot editors of these forms of media are really destroying their own livelihoods by endlessly feeding us this NEGATIVE end-of-the-world tripe that they just won’t let up about.

Apart from all the above my least favourite so-called “news” item is when an elderly person gets bashed (a fairly regular occurence in the lawless city of Perth, Western Australia in which I live) or an innocent person minding their own business is “glassed” or beset upon by a gang of thugs and we have to be confronted by gory pictures of broken faces with eyes blackened, noses broken, heads gashed and stitched back together – all done at the hands of some mindless moron whose pea-brain has been addled by drugs.

Then, of course, the news media absolutely LOVES and gets right into the faces of those people who are weeping openly at the loss of a loved one or a home burnt down or destroyed in some other way. The news cameras just LOVE to zoom in on this and get right in these people’s faces to portray REAL human grief. For Christ-sake give these people some PRIVACY in their periods of grief!

The media has become a WHORE!

So many people are now switching this media RUBBISH off. And why wouldn’t you? It is too predictable, forced on to us far too often and it is way too graphic. Negative, negative and more NEGATIVE!

Nobody needs a dose of this every hour, on the hour, or splattered all over the first 10 pages of the newspaper. Why are we being subjected to it? And why is it being ramped up the way that it is? Do we need to be held in a state of perpetual fear? No wonder so many people are suffering DEPRESSION! What is the point?

Warning – media! You are flirting with your own inevitable deaths.

Enter the internet, where YOU can decide what YOU want to watch or read or listen to. If it’s too bad then at the click of a mouse you can go somewhere else – places like websites or social media sites like Twitter.

Zap – teleportation to a better place! Yes, I KNOW that you can switch off a TV or radio but…

… you must realise that we have all been “conditioned” to watch and listen to these things without discernment. We just watch and we listen. And in comes the NEGATIVE – like a steam-roller to squash you into submission.

There is no way in the world that I am going to put up with the utter garbage that these traditional news media outlets are foisting upon us all. NO WAY! Like so many others I’m tuning O-U-T!

Being subjected with endless negativism all the time does nothing to help anyone. I figure that if things get THAT bad, somebody is going to tell me anyway, so why should I take any notice of any of it and ruin my day? All it will do is harm my mind. I don’t need that and neither do YOU!

You can fight back against these media whores who will offer up any sensationalistic GARBAGE just to get headlines. MOST of what they say and write is utter dribble anyway. Switch off, filter, tune out. You don’t need the negativity, the scare-mongering, the fear, the trauma, the drama – it’s all so unneccesary and damaging to your mind. Your life will be so much better without it all.

Dump it. You don’t need it. These days, unfortunately, the media is nothing more than a bad news whore!

Do you agree with me or disagree? Tell me what you think. Don’t hold back – let it rip!

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I did mention to Hilary Dickinson during the week that I would have something special to write about in my book review this week. You see, I know that Hilary is very passionate about teaching children literary and numeracy and financial skills because we ALL KNOW that the so-called “education system” in our respective countries is failing to educate our children to any accpetable standard at all these days.

Parents like Hilary should be commended for taking this stance and I hope that everyone visits Hilary’s blog to add their comments on what she is doing. And well done to her daughter (Lizzie “the Lizzard”) too for being so keen to learn from her mum. If only all kids would do the same. But… most of them seem destined to make the SAME nincompoop mistakes that their parents have taken half a lifetime to learn from and correct…

… anyway, where was I? Oh yeah! Book review. Sometimes I just get so side-tracked.

Well, I am sitting here with my copy of “The Richest Man in Babylon” written by George S Clason and wondering what I can possibly say about this WONDERFUL book to inspire you to go and purchase a copy and READ it. No, not just read it – STUDY it!

You see, like my previous book review on “Psycho Cybernetics” (Maxwell Maltz) – which you can read at: http://motivationselfesteem.com/talk/914/book-review-psycho-cybernetics-by-maxwell-maltz.htm – if you missed it, “The Richest Man in Babylon” is another of my TOP TEN motivation, inspiration and information books of all time. Yes! It is that darn good.

In my massive library of 300-400 motivation, self-esteem, inspiration books this little baby is right up there. So, what is it all about?

Perhaps I could do no better than to repeat the “mandamus”-like inscription just inside the front cover:

Now, that all sounds VERY simple doesn’t it? So, why do most people completely stuff it up? Hmm, well we live in a very complex world now. People with VESTED interests make SIMPLE finance VERY difficult to understand. I am talking about bankers, stock-brokers, insurers, finance providers and the like. Oh, not to mention how all of those “industries” are now completely surrounded by massive legal teams completely devoted to enshrouding simple techniques with legal “protection” thereby making everything very, very complex and almost IMPOSSIBLE to understand.

The Richest Man in Babylon (sorry Nikki Stephens but yep, Babylon IS in the title and I know that “By the Rivers of Babylon” is not your favourite tune of all time and that this will further ensure that the words of that song will be bouncing around inside your head – SORRY!), as the name suggests (and the excerpt above) is written in biblical text.

DON’T LET THAT PUT YOU OFF!

George Classon wrote a MASTERPIECE here! Just a few comments about Classon…

George Classon was born in Louisiana Missouri on 7 November 1874. He was a publisher and in 1926 he issued the first of a series of pamphlets on thrift and financial success. These pamphlets were issued by banks and insurance companies in tens of thousands. People loved the information and from these pamphlets the Richest Man in Babylon was conceived. It went on to sell many millions of copies.

Using much of this information and adding a few twists of my own I wrote “How to Save 1000’s and Increase Your Personal Net Wealth” which you can see here: http://motivationselfesteem.com/wealth.html. The main addition to my book was the inclusion of a set of exercises to “slap” people into action by making them realise that:

1 – you probably are NOT doing anywhere near as well as you think you are and,
2 – you need to do something about that NOW!

Anyway, back to the Richest Man in Babylon by George Classon – get it, read it, study it and apply the timeless principles. The ISBN is 0:7343:0509:5 and my copy is published by Penguin books.

PS: Oh, one more thing… in 2002, I purchased a copy for each of my children… as a Christmas present. Can you imagine their faces when they opened those presents? Then me being me offered them a $50 note for a one page book review by way of a “promissory note.”

I warned them not to “fudge” me on that review either coz I would know (and I bloody-well would have too and they KNEW it!). I am pleased to inform that they both collected the $50 and both have made some very sound financial decisions ever since. They are both now at least $100,000 in front of where they would have been had they not absorbed the wisdom of this book.

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