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  1. Simon Dodd

    Great post as usual Gary,

    It is always these little moments that give us a fresh perspective on life. I think all of your readers will now have that lady in their thoughts wishing her well.

    Loved your little bit on attitudinal adjustment, thats one way of putting it I guess, not sure how the courts would take it though ;)

    Thanks again mate


  2. Alex Makarski

    A friend called me today and ask about the best thing that happened to me today. I said, “I woke up and the world was still here.” We don’t know how much time we have. Some days when I catch myself feeling down, I think, “What would I be doing right now if I knew I only had 6 months to live?”


  3. Gary

    @ Simon – Thanks. I hope they will too. The thing that got me was that the tears just kept flowing – like a river.

    Regarding “attitudinal adjustment” – those who require it are also adept at lying and making themselves seem like the victim.

    You’re welcome.

    @ Alex – as they say… life is a blessing and we should use it to our advantage – before it is taken away from us.

    I thought this was a good time to post something like this. The things that bother us can seem pretty trivial when you observe things like this. I wish I could have done something for that lady but she needed time to get over her grief.


  4. Collette Jones

    Gary, you’ve made me cry!

    After a VERY difficult year I’ve been feeling sorry for myself these past few days… but you’ve made me realize how lucky I really am.

    I still have so much to be grateful for in life… I have the love and support from my two sons and my very valued friends. l have my health and I’m looking forward to becoming a grandmother early next year.

    These are the important things… everything else can take second place. Thanks for reminding me!

    My thoughts and prayers go out to this lady, I wish her the very best.

    Take care


  5. Mary Kellner Coon (makingmagic)

    Several things come to mind and my prayers are with the elderly woman. No matter what the road is like for the rest of her journey may she find peace, strength and courage to make the journey as pleasing as possible.

    With that being said, there is another side to this reality check that is very similar yet, very very different. What it we were in this woman’s shoes? How many give up? How many stop caring about anything. Statistics show that 90%+ of the world’s population believe in a creator or supreme being in some form. How strange it is that when living our day to day lives, we forget that we have to answer to a higher power. We drudge along in our own depressions, not bothering to care that it is a vicious cycle which will spin into a tornado of trouble if we do not break the cycle.

    My childhood memories are seldom good, but even I can remember people smiling and shaking hands in greeting and wishing each other “Happy Holidays” and their eyes said they meant it. Then I look back on Christmases 20 – 30 years ago when my children were small. I remember the standing in line to get the gift that each one wanted so desparately. I loved decorating and baking just to see their faces light up. Santa always came Thanksgiving night to put up our tree with the advent calendar telling them how many days until Santa would come to reward them for a small kindness they must do each day. A record was kept beside the calendar with a sticker showing what days they had managed to remember to be kind to someone else. Now, I look at the lack of respect that children and even adults give to each other and I wonder when I missed the ruling that people must turn into werewolfs, zombies, vampires, godzilla, frankenstein and Mr. Hyde. Maybe it was the same time that we started buying toys like “Chucky” dolls for small children to play with. I really don’t know, but I am happy to say that I would rather remain quietly at home working on my business this year, than to spend it in the company of idiots who have forgotten that even without the religious aspects, Christmas was the time of sharing peace and goodwill.

    There is a country song that comes to mind when I think about this kind of a reality check. “Live Like You Were Dying”. What type of person do you wish to be at the end and how do you want to be remembered? If you believe in a higher power, what do you want to answer for?

  6. Scherie Lee

    Gary thank you for your post.
    I hardly take the time to read blog posts, but the title caught my attention.

    This past year has been a challenge for most including myself.

    I pray everyday and am grateful, thankful for what I have in my life; my son and family and my business.
    I take it day by day thats how I cope with this crazy world we live in.
    I agree with you how mean some people can be!

    Keep on Keeping on with your head held high and be thankful for what you have in life…..

    Thanks for Sharing.

  7. Gary

    @ Colls – We ALL have problems and demons to slay. As I say in my JLD course… “If you could bundle up all your troubles and problems and EXCHANGE them with a complete stranger, would you?” I’ve NEVER had anybody answer yes. Coz you just DON’T KNOW what you might get back in return. What if you exchanged unknowingly with this poor lady?
    I didn’t mean to make anybody else cry over this but if you did then that tells me your heart is good. Some people will read what I wrote above and say: “WTF. WHO CARES? And… PS you’re an idiot for doing what you did. Leave people ALONE!”

    Yes, you do have a lot to be grateful about. Would you exchange the goodness in your heart with anyone else? I DOUBT it!

    Congrats on being a soon-to-be Granny. Granny Colls.

    Thanks also for your prayers for this lady too. Somewhere in the cosmos that message will help her.

    @ Mary – Thank you too for your prayers.

    I remember those days with my children too. They are all grown up now and Christmas just doesn’t seem the same any more. We used to love Christmas morning. The kids were always SO excited. It was a great time in life. Now Christmas is just another day – albeit now highly corporatized. Now it’s just commercial – SPEND, SPEND, SPEND!

    I think that as you say:

    “Christmas was the time of sharing peace and goodwill”

    – THAT is the key.

    Thank you ladies and Merry Christmas to you both.


  8. sally


    Very moving. I’ve felt like this at times when I’ve witnessed someone who is crying and very sad about something.

    It’s hard to know if you should approach them.

    I had an interesting experience while hospitalized about a year and a half ago.

    The first night after an emergency appendectomy (the surgeon couldn’t get it without cutting me open so it was more involved and required a longer stay than expected) I wasn’t supposed to get up and go to the bathroom without help but I couldn’t find the call button thing so I stood up and didn’t know what to do about the IV gadget that was plugged in to the wall. (not ever having been hospitalized before, I was at a disadvantage as to how it all works). So, I tried to find the call button thing but couldn’t find it. I also realized that I just couldn’t stand a moment longer so I grabbed the telephone within reach and called the operator. I explained my situation and she called the nurse’s station. The nurse that came in seemed less than thrilled about what I had done.

    When I started to try to explain why I had called the operator tears welled up because I was in pain and was at the limit of the time I could stand there. Even though she seemed annoyed, she unplugged the IV unit and told me to go to the bathroom. (Still not helping me)

    Once I got back into bed we started talking and she started to warm up to me. As it turns out she had something very tragic happen to her very recently. She lost her daughter 2 months prior to a sudden death and they never really knew what was wrong. Her daughter was married with 2 young children.

    I was in that hospital for 4 days and nights. We talked for hours every night because she was on at night. The last night I was there she came and to me to say good-bye and she held my hand and said “Thank you so much. You’ve helped me more than I could ever have helped you.”

    Very special indeed.

    You just never know what is going on in people’s lives.

    Having said that, I know that you have a great heart and are one of the wonderful people on this Earth so don’t ever let any of those disgruntled folks that just dwell on the negative ever get you down my friend.

    Cheers to you!

  9. Randy Koehler

    Thanks for sharing Gary. Yes, this type of situation is indeed a reality check when you happen to come upon it.

    I’ve already spoken a prayer for this lady and wish her the best.

    Is it just me or does the world we live in today seem like a meaner, nastier more impatient place?

    I have recently made the decision to keep the negative and hostile environment that seems to surround us at arms length from now on. Wish me luck.

  10. Gary

    @ Scherie – Well I’m rather glad that you chose this blog post to read. I think – in the overall grand scheme of things – that I was SUPPOSED to see this lady. And I was so tempted just to ignore her plight. I’ve gotten into SO much trouble trying to help people in the past but I always fall for it. *SIGH*

    I think, overwhelmingly, there is far more good than evil in this world but the deeds of the evil-doers seem to be reported so much more. And a small number of very black-hearted people cause so much grief – just look at 9/11. Plus now we have so many terrible mind-altering drugs washing through our communities.

    I was just listening to the news and the police were reporting that they have dismantled a RECORD number of drug-labs this week and confiscated numerous firearms and a ton of cash and drugs ready to hit the streets. This sort of thing is NEVER-ENDING. That kinda tells you something…

    I hope that 2011 will be a better year for you Scherie. And thank you for coming here and commenting.


  11. Lisa

    God bless that poor woman that has been diagnosed with Leukemia. God bless her and comfort her. Poor gal.
    When we see someone hurting, it really puts into perspective how really easy our life is and how blessed we really are!
    I know sometimes when I get to feeling down and I think I know what’s better for me than God does, I step back and get really thankful for the things we tend to take for granted. Like hands to type this, or arms to cuddle the kids.
    Christmas at my house is always full of love and understanding cause we know that yes, Christmas is trees. lights, presents, etc. but the main reason we have Christmas is because Jesus was born and he is the Prince of Peace!
    One day some years ago, the Lord took my daddy to be with Him. Tomorrow will be 10 years without my daddy, my best friend.
    Yes, I miss him, and I still feel lonesome without him, but Christmas at my house is still filled with happiness and love because we know we have a mansion and treasures up in Heaven all because of what Christmas really means.
    This year hasn’t been the best for a lot of folks, but we get a second chance (and a 3rd and a 4th, 5th, 6th, etc.)

    God bless you Gary, you are wonderful! God bless you for talking to that sad, crying lady. You probably made her day a little brighter!

    Have a Merry Merry Christmas!

    P.S. I think it’s sad that y’all live in a place that the people are so mean and rude and you have to worry about boofheads who pick on little old ladies….go get that handled!! :)

  12. Dulci

    Hiya, Gary,

    Great, thought-provoking post.

    Back home, I grew up with an odd saying: “I cried, because I had no shoes, until I met someone who had no feet.”

    At the end of an INTERESTING year (Old Chinese curse: “May you live in INTERESTING times!”), I realize that, in spite of all challenges, how BLESSED I truly am, what I have to be thankful for.

    (But I’ll add that little old lady to my prayers.)

    Take care and God bless!
    – D.

  13. Roberta

    Yes, moving indeed, Gary. I’ve been in a number of similar and/or very sad situations, but I won’t go into that. Keeping things on the light side, I guess I must throw in my two cents… what’s with this “elderly” label? Hey… I’m a great grandma! And the funny thing is, the older I get, the higher up the “elderly” label moves. I’m older now than I’ve ever been (yes, it’s true), and despite a few creaky joints and a bit less strength (OK, a lot less strength), I don’t think of myself as old.

    Still, your message carries a lot of truth, as I’ve witnessed the evolution (or is it devolution?) of the human kindness equation just in my lifetime. I was raised to help others, but as you so poignantly point out, that can get you into a bit of trouble these days. Occasionally I have asked for help, and then the “other guy” demonstrates confusion and hesitation… like they suspect I’m about to take advantage of them somehow.

    Luckily, I know you now, and others in the forums and online groups I’ve been so fortunate to find, and I see the kindess is still there… it’s just not so common on the street anymore. And that’s very sad, indeed.

    Well, I guess I’ll go check my emails to see if that craphead from last night has a retort to my email defending myself. Like my mother said, “When you get old, dear, you can pretty much say what you want to, and no one is going to take you seriously enough to get you into trouble.”

    Thanks for the thoughtful posts, as always, and have a very Merry Christmas! From what I’ve read here tonight, you are very loved and appreciated.


  14. Chuck Bartok

    Fantastic again, Gary
    It is not really hard for us to “change our ways” and become more open with OUR feelings and revel in sharing them others.
    The secret is we need to spend more time listening, as you did with the the woman on the escalator.
    The only difference I learned not to be afraid of offering contact, never been arrested from it and never been rebuffed.
    Humanity is much more powerful than “political Correctness”
    “Life is a Death Sentence”, but we only need to capitalize on the opportunity we have TODAY and SHARE with all we meet.
    Thanks you again for your Candor, Sincerity and Honesty.
    Merry Christmas to you and all of our your family and friends.
    Let’s just keep the spirit 365

  15. Gary

    @ Salls – Gee, what a wonderful but also very tragic story. You should post that on your own blog.

    “You just never know what is going on in people’s lives.”

    Very true.

    WOW! Thanks for that last comment. I’m quite over-awed by it. I’m no saint but I do believe in helping people wherever I can – even total strangers. And if I see somebody being taken advantage of or bullied then I get this rage inside me that I find very hard to ignore.

    @ Randy – these comments and emails and skype messages are now coming at me so fast I cannot keep up with them – LOL! So everything is getting out of order.

    I think, as I said above, that the reporting of evil and mean spiritedness is just so much more prevalent now. The media is in LOVE with evil. And it then becomes a self-perpetuating downward spiral. It’s hard to ignore coz it is thrown at you from EVERY angle.

    Personally, I think our IDIOT governments are also to blame for a lot of it. Just look at the moronic decisions they make and then legislate us all to knuckle down to. They tend to promote and reward all the stupid things. It has become a very upside down world where the decent people are punished and the cretins are encouraged and rewarded.

    @ Lisa – It certainly does put things in perspective. That is why I just had to put this post here – because we are all guilty of focussing on our woes.

    My condolences to you on that sad anniversary. But you will have many fine memories.

    “a mansion and treasures up in Heaven”

    Wow! That was a really nice way to put it. You are indeed rich.

    Regarding your PS: Yes, for some reason a certain element of our youth in this city just see old folk as cannon-fodder to bash and rob. It happens far too often over here – like just about EVERY day. It’s the drugs. It must be. I can’t think of any other reason. Perth is the polar opposite in Japan where old folk are respected and treasured and venerated for their wisdom and knowledge. Here they are just targets for abuse. It’s nasty. That was what I erroneously presumed had happened yesterday. I thought I may have been required to exercise a “Billy Jack” moment. (A great movie from the 70’s where he says: “It’s moments like these when I go internally berserk” then goes nuts on some evil guy who disrespected two kids in a very ugly way just for his own perverse pleasure. It’s a great scene.) Thankfully, that didn’t happen.

    @ Dulci – Yes, that is a great saying. Thanks for your prayers for that lady and good wishes.

    A BIG thank you to all you folks. It’s good to see there is still a LOT of kindness about.

    Merry Christmas.


  16. Jill

    Thanks for this post Gary. My prayers are united with all of yours too for this lady.

    I certainly hope she has good understanding and supportive family to go home to.

    I was watching Carman on Christian TV yesterday as he and his guests shared about gratefulness. How quickly we can forget just how much we have to be grateful for. I am going to make a point from now on to write jot down 2-3 things in my journal I am grateful for, every day.

    It is all about focus – and a decision to focus on the right things. If you don’t make a deliberate decision, the negative default takes over.

    So sorry to hear of the onslaught against you Gary – that can be tough for sure. Please know that you also have a big group of supporters and friends who honor you for who you really are.

    Merry Christmas!

  17. James

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    Don’t cave in to pressure and torment Gary. I’ve battled demons for ages, sometimes they are literal hell where I consider praying to be taken in my sleep. My former pastors words ring truest then, its easy to knock over a fool but near impossible to stumble the strong in heart. Not admitting to a man crush or anything (like omg I am sooooo not like metro) but you are one of the strongest in heart that I’ve crossed paths with in ages.
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  18. joe

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  19. Gary

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    @ Roberta – “Elderly” is anybody ONE day older than me. LOL! I hear you about “the older I get” comment. Just look at how blindingly FAST this year has flashed by.

    I think devolution is the more apt word. It’s a world of “ME, ME, ME!” now, sadly. Yes, people are VERY quick to think … SCAMMER ALERT!
    Bad marketing practices where hype is +10 and delivery is -10 has caused that. EVERYBODY is suspicious now.

    Let the “cr*phead” go Roberta. I had one yesterday that I emailed back and forth to try to talk some sense into. But, for him, it was just a perverted sport. He just became more and more ridiculous. I ended up blocking his email coz there was no hope for him. Why waste time on a baiter? (a “master baiter” at that – LOL!)

    You will rarely change a mind so devoid of sensibility. Your baiter is just another lobster – body full of meat and a head full of sh*t. They seem to be everywhere these days. I’ve had the usual idiotic email comments in the barrage of unsubs that this post has caused. Really, I am SO thankful to get people like that OFF my subscriber base. They do NOT deserve to take advantage of what I have. So these posts and others like them are just a filter for me.

    Gee, THANK YOU for saying that last bit.


  20. Gary

    @ Chuck – Thanks mate. I often see and experience things that I think will make worthy topics that we can all learn from. (Me included.) So I put ‘em here, usually under “Life Tips.” Then I spend the rest of the day answering everyone – LOL! Nevertheless it’s all good. Well, I don’t enjoy the ridicule from certain emailers but they never come here to make their snarly comments. Funny about that coz I pretty much allow everyone to have their say. And that includes whatever criticism anybody wants to make of me. The only censorship I invoke is if somebody names another person (doesn’t happen too often) or gives out what I consider to be too much personal information for their own welfare (that happens sometimes).

    Yeah, at times it’s really difficult. You sure can open yourself up to false accusation if you touch somebody. My idea of assault is to hit somebody flush in the face or break an arm or a leg or something. But these days assault can be an unwanted tap on the arm or a misinterpreted hug. Pretty soon we will have to fill out a contract before shaking hands with another person. That’s how silly it is becoming. But you’re right:

    Humanity is much more powerful than “political Correctness”

    The day we become too terrified to reach out to those in distress will be our collective armageddon.

    @ Jill – I thought that too. I wondered if she was alone with her grief or if she had family. I didn’t want to get too “nosey” even though I was very concerned for her. As it was I think some passers-by may have thought that I’d caused her those tears. I hoped not.

    That’s a good idea Jill – listing all the things we are grateful for. I bet that most people could make a list of over 100 – despite all the crap that is thrown at us from every direction.

    The criticism is pretty much par-for-the-course. When you stand for something you always have detractors. As I am often bound to say: “Some people hate the Pope, some hated Jesus, some hate Bambi, some hate Lassie, some hated Mother Teresa, some detested Lady Diana Spencer.” That is just the way some people are.

    It’s sad (for them) but that is how they are wired. It’s disappointing but you can expect it. There’s a lot of jealousy and frustration and plain old stupidity breeding out there in cyberland. I think in future, rather than trying to pacify or understand these people, I will just delete them.

    @ James – Sorry to hear that. Hey, that’s a pretty good saying.

    The next bit made me laugh – ie the “man crush” thing. The only crush I put on a guy is at the karate studio and that’s always a pretty good test of their ability to be able to get out of it.

    I think, more than anything else, I just get massively disappointed to see the low level that these people are operating at. I’d really like to see them succeed but they are so locked down in their negativity and as I always say: “You cannot help another person more than what they want to help themselves.” (Gee, I’m quoting myself a lot today. That would make my friend Linda Caroll go into a tailspin. LOL!) It has to come from WITHIN and the comments that many of them literally spew out just show how far gone they really are. Trying to help somebody like that is futile. I know. I’ve tried to do it many, many times and it always ends up the same way.

    @ Joe – Yep. I hear you brother. I had a distinct feeling of hopelessness and helplessness yesterday. If only she had asked me to do something for her. I had a wallet full of money. If she had needed $100 for a cab or something I would have gladly given it to her. But she was in a daze. I could see that.

    I was actually even contemplating visiting the Administration Center on the way back out to see if a security guard could keep an eye on her but I didn’t. They would probably think I was some sort of dramatist. They just wanna do what little they can and get the hell out of the place ASAP. Unless you are wearing a Police uniform they take very little notice of you. I’ve been in there before to report damage to vehicles where the person who caused it has just taken off. They don’t like people being a nuisance like that because it’s only extra work for them. Sad but true.

    Nice to hear that your dogs are important to you. I can tell a lot about a person by seeing the way they behave towards animals. Yes, give your precious daughter a big hug. She will be all the more rich for it. In my opinion that is far more important than a Christmas present – just letting her know how much she means to you and that she is loved. There’s not enough of that these days.

    Merry Christmas to all you good folk.


  21. Al


    Thank you for that post. It brought me farther away from my own problems, which pale in comparison. Being unemployed for almost 2 years and almost broke is still better than being diagnosed with a terminal illness. Although, as you pointed out, life itself is a terminal illness, just a matter of timing.

    Anyways, you are inspiring by just putting yourself out there and writing what you feel, no matter what others may think about you. Keep it coming and always be the free spirit you are.


  22. Gary

    @ Al – I know it’s little comfort for you but there is usually somebody in a worse place than you. Sorry to hear about the unemployment issue. Maybe you need to move in another direction.

    If it would help you I will gladly give you my JLD course. You can read about it here: If you want it then it’s yours. Just let me know coz I don’t want to force any of my stuff on anybody or make them feel obliged to take it when it may be unsuitable or even unwanted.

    Al, I’m not really worried about what people think with regards to my “soft” or “feminine” side. I know who I am and I’m never afraid to show emotions. I think I’ve done that here. And look at all the other AMAZING comments. They have been very enlightening and show all of us that there is still an abundance of goodness.

    Thanks for commenting and I hope things improve massively for you in 2011. take me up on my offer if you think it would help.



    [PS: Al did take me up on that offer. I hope he gets a lot out of that course. I know many others have.]

  23. Ian C


    It seems strange to me that people seem so full of nastiness and rudeness during holiday periods that are supposed to promote peace and goodwill to all. I am not a religious person, but I do understand that Christmas is a time for the celebration of Jesus Christ being born, and a time to show your fellow person kindness.

    After many years of living in Melbourne, a large capital city, my wife and I moved to a relatively sparse area (population wise) of Victoria Australia, and I have been astounded by the difference of people within the area. People actually smile and say hello on the street!

    I feel it is a sad reflection on “society” that, like yourself, I have to second guess approaching someone who is obviously in distress. My wife and I will always help people who seem in need, but a few times now that has backfired on us in a negative and very disturbing way.

    It is becoming much harder for my wife and I to go to heavily populated areas or bigger shopping centers due to the way people behave in them. I am not a small bloke, by any means, and my wife says I can be quite intimidating at times, but I always try to give fellow human beings a smile and nod in greeting as I go by on the street, it is just a shame that it is rare to find someone who will reciprocate in kind.

    I applaud you for taking the opportunity and time to ask of that lady what the problem was. It shows that you have a true character that many people could learn from. Giving, listening and actually caring are traits that I was brought up with and I like hearing that there are still others out there with the same values and nature as myself.

    Merry Christmas to you and yours & all the best.

  24. Chris

    Good article Gary. Good on you for trying to help that lady out. You did a noble thing. Not many people are like that these days. It seems so much more impersonal in our society and people are not really looking out for their fellow man/woman as much as in a previous age.
    Yeah I too hate all the aggression out there and I think you are right that a lot of it comes from pressure. If we could just slow down sometimes and take a breath we could get a better perspective, but when you are going at a hundred miles an hour it is impossible to stop and smell the roses.
    Good take too on the waty things are now where people are suspected, harangued or charged for oftem altruistic motives. It is a sad indictment on our self centred society. I blame that insidious thng called political correctness. It is a bane on our existence and is setting us all up for a big fall. I too like to say what I think and it atrracts infamy or stigma, but I don’t care. I prefer people who say what they think even if it isn’t popular.

  25. Gary

    @ Ian – Well, that is just where they are at in their life journey. I call it: “Not quite fully developed as a decent person, yet.” Oops, quoted myself again! LOL!

    Large city’s have all their attendant problems and the busy aloofness of such ant-like populations. I’ve been to Melbourne and Sydney many times and it’s amazing how many times people will bump into you, say nothing, and just move on. I haven’t been to New York but I have a friend who lives nearby and he says that sort of thing is diabolical in that city. Just social aloofness and not caring about anybody else.

    I think I mentioned above that I’ve been accused of ulterior motives when ALL I have been doing is trying to help somebody. A few years ago a group of us went to a restaurant. Inside was a kid’s rocking horse. You put $1 in it and the silly thing rocks for a whole minute while the kids ride it. Well, parents had obviously given a little boy and his sister a dollar each to have a ride while they sat at a table – like “here… lose yourself for a few minutes and leave us alone.”

    Anyway, the boy used BOTH dollars. That made the little girl cry. As I walked in I saw this so I knelt down, took out a dollar and gave it to the little girl (about 3 or 4) so she could have a ride. Off she went pleased to take her ride. When I stood up and glanced around I saw half a dozen people staring at me with horrified looks on their faces. It kinda smacked of the “p*doph*le” accusation. I was really sickened to think that their sick minds would contemplate that. But that is where we are as a society. Everyone is suspicious because of what the lunatics do.

    None of them said: “Good on you mate!” There were just dagger like looks with nothing said until they turned away and resumed their meals and conversations. I still remember thinking: “You sick f*cks!” (Sorry folks but that is EXACTLY what I thought. I remember it so vividly even though it was probably 10 years ago.)

    Thanks for backing me up on the “big blokes can care too” front. Like you, “intimidating” is a word often used when describing me and NOTHING could be further from the truth – well, 99% of the time. The 1% of fools who choose to see the other side of me desrve all they get. People are FAR too quick to judge.

    I know you said you aren’t particularly religious but I think you would agree with this quote:

    “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do. (Luke 23:34)”

    Thanks Ian – you BIG SCARY bloke – LOL!

    Merry Christmas to you too.


  26. Gary

    @ Chris – Whoever the NINCOMPOOP was or is who invented that stupid, lame “political correctness” BS should be horse-whipped. It’s made our societies too frightened to do or say anything – even when it is with the very best of intentions. And everywhere we have the hawk-eyed labelists who are so quick to jump on ANY comment – no matter how intangible – with a tag of homophobic, racist, misogynist etc etc.

    The THOUGHT POLICE are coming. Just wait for that – to be busted on what you “might” be thinking.

    My Grandfather used to say with monotony: “The world has gone stark-raving mad!” I wonder what he would say today if he were still alive? Thankfully he never got to see the level of descent that we have plumbed to.

    Thanks for coming here to comment and all the best for Christmas Chris.


  27. Chris

    Spot on Gary. I agree completely with you.
    I forgot to wish you a Merry Christmas and wish you the best for the New Year. By the way you are doing a good job and keep up the great work as it is nice to comment on this blog and express our opinions on the interesting topics covered.

  28. Dennis Pippin

    Hey Gars

    This is a moving post. I would like to thank you for checking on the little ole lady. I sure she did appreciate your caring and kindness. It’s really to bad that you have to worry about the repercussions giving a hug to a stranger in this world we live in. I’m sure she could have used one, even from a stranger. If only more people would have the same mind set to want to help someone other than themselves.

    This has not been a good year for me in many ways but after reading your post and the reading all of the comments, I guess I’m not alone and don’t have that much to complain about. I think I should start thinking of what I do have and don’t dwell on what I don’t have.

    You have opened my eyes and have got my emotions running a little astray. Thank you for this Gary and keep up with the honest words you bring us here.

  29. Paul Hamilton

    Morning Gary,

    Great post mate. I´ll have to be quick with this one as I´m just walking out the door but, I totally agree with this line
    “Maybe we should all take a step back and be grateful for what we have.”

    I used to but, not anymore, for me the sky is a deeper shade of blue and the flowers smell sweeter.

    I know you will know what I´m referring to..

    All the best,


  30. Glenda Oakley

    I too come from the big city of Melbourne, to a small country town. Everyone knows everyone elses business; nothing can happen without the whole town knowing about it. But that is just natural. However, if anyone needs help, there is always someone there to offer a hand. Or several people. Everyone waves and says hello in the street and people carry grocery bags to cars for other people. If you fell down, you’d have several people helping you up, and you would do the same without hesitation. I would have done the same thing as you, Gary, have done so all my life and lived to regret one or two times. A lady outside the vet was upset, I went over and her dog died while we were talking, waiting for the vet.
    I cried all the way home. (93 k trip) I thought about her for days.(I love animals)
    Anyway, I figure, you can offer help over and over and not be able to do anything, but one day you just might make a difference and save someone from harm. My dad was diagnosed with aplasic anemia (no cure). He was the only one in the doctor surgery that wasn’t crying. Even the doctor was, but Dad thought positive right up till he passed away.
    Have a lovely Christmas everyone, and there IS always someone worse off than yourself. And you just have 2 choices: accept things…or not.Roll with the punces, is that what they say Bye now.

  31. Cynthia

    Hi Gary
    I really appreciate this post both as a further indicator of your compassionate nature and as a confirmation of your social networking savvy (a header with the word SAD in it will always get readers I’m guessing… especially at a time of the year when many of us are trying to deny that feeling). I love all the detail you gave so that we were able to be right there at the top of the escalator with you, trying to decide what to do. And I too will pray for the poor woman you offered assistance to.

    And like one of the writers above, I was a little taken aback by the frequent references to this woman as “old” and “elderly”– probably because I’m now a grandmother in my 60s and haven’t yet considered myself elderly– partly because I still have the good fortune of having a Dad with all his faculties about him who replied recently to my asking how he was doing with a quizzical “I am amazingly well… but just a little lonesome, I guess”. Love it when men can express their feelings of sadness, loneliness, etc. What strength!

    And lastly, I just want to toss my 2 cents about the power of the “attitude of gratitude” and general positivity into the mix. We can spend a lot of energy on the pathology of situations (why me? why now? etc.) or we can do what Paul suggested to the followers in Philipii: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” And, of course, you become what you think! Have a Merry Christmas– make the day special– and a fantastic 2011! God bless you! ~Cynthia

  32. Jonathan Lake

    Hi Gary and Happy Christmas,

    Very powerful story indeed.

    I do feel that people these days seem to make pressure and problems where there are none. After all Christmas is supposed to be a wonderful time for the family to get together and catch up, enjoying warmth love and a really great time. But we read that this seems not to be the case as families are pushed together and the cracks that the current economic climate has caused just get bigger with more couples breaking up shortly after Christmas than at any other time.

    It is a sad indictment on the way of the world.

    Like you, I am a great people watcher and I herald you for having the strength, in these days of stupid red tape and political correctdness, to go back to check on her. It must have been hard to do, but I believe you were sent back for a reason. After all, everything happens for a reason doesn’t it?

    I have been working my online Business full time for over 2 years now and being away from the rat race has changed my life and outlook on life immeasurably. Despite not yet having got to the income I was earning in a J.O.B (but I am getting there fast!) my quality of life is amazing.

    Spending time with my wife and kids, being an active part of my 3 year old sons early years, knowing that what I do on my Business dictates its success and its not down to someone else.

    I think that WE marketers DO get a different prespective on life – one which I would recommend to everyone in the world.

    Life is no dress rehearsal.

    Enjoy every day

    Have a great Christmas Gary

    Heres to a fantastic 2011

    Jonathan – UK

  33. Tony Clingan

    Hi Gary

    You did the right thing in going back and asking, none of us get out of this deal alive and the lady in question just goes to show how fragile our existence is

    Rude agressive people are a fact of modern life, we live in a I want in now society, sadly the people who behave like that don’t get what they want but they cause a lot of upset in the process

    Against that my local garage guy has just beaten his way through the snow to pick my car up so decent people still exist

    So I think when somebody spams our blog or leaves an abusive comment in the end we have to feel sorry for them because they are the architects of their own downfall

    Thanks for sharing Tony

  34. Hilary Dickinson

    Hi Gary

    Last week I was at a Christmas Carol Service for the Teenage Cancer Trust where Lizzie was singing in the choir.

    The address was given by a 16 year old boy recovering from cancer who explained why it was so important to raise the money for a unit in our part of the country specifically for teenage cancer sufferers. He spoke with dignity, not outrightly tugging on the heartstrings, but anyone who was not moved by what he said must have been hard hearted.

    Edward Burke said something to the effect of:

    “All that’s necessary for the forces of evil to win in the world is for enough good men to do nothing.”

    Perhaps if everyone who agrees with the message in this post and the sentiments expressed in the comments all made this the one resolution we keep for 2011 and encouraged at least one other person to do the same maybe, just maybe there might be enough momentum to start the circle rolling again towards common decency prevailing and political correctness being consigned to where it belongs…

    Happy Christmas and may we all make it a good 2011 (even in the midst of these difficult times)


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